To my brave and darling father,
Your long battle against cancer did not end in defeat. You triumphed over the disease by choosing to live, even if in the end you succumbed physically, the battle refined who you are, it refined your soul. You triumphed over the medical staff and nurses who often treated you so appallingly by looking them in the eye and treating them with a respect that they were ultimately forced to return. You triumphed over that shitty little hospital by embracing it and mentally creating a sense of good, even when it might not have been there. You triumphed over an accumulated perspective of being negative and became overwhelmingly positive.
I cherish the fact that we were able to enjoy a good, warm and decent relationship, even if we didn’t share with each other as much as we should have. We understood each other. If only all children were able to say that about their parents.
The list of things I wish I still had the time to learn from you is too long to enumerate. But the length of the list of things I am surprised to have learned from you is longer still! The simple things in life are sometimes too easy, too mundane to actually learn and then action. It is these things that you yearned for, these things that you battled away for. These things that you shall miss. But stories of you, of your heart of gold and your enduring kindness ensures that it is these things -- such as the lives of your grandchildren – that you will continue to positively influence.
You fought a long and courageous battle during which you never once gave up your will to live. And live on you shall as your children and grandchildren will always strive to match your depth of compassion and generosity of spirit.
There were things we hoped to celebrate together which didn’t manifest. But when they do I know you will be smiling down on me.
There is too much to thank you for and getting through that deserves more thought and more introspection than this letter allows.
I love you and will forever miss you,Your loving son, his wife and his baby girl